Lo ngumahluko phakathi kokulwa ngesiqhelo kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngomlomo

Njengengcali yeengqondo, ndihlala ndiva amabali malungaukulwa. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ungquzulwano luyinto eqhelekileyo kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane kwaye, ngexesha leengxoxo ezishushu, iimvakalelo zomsindo kunye nokudakumba kunokudumba, kusenze ukuba sibahlasele amaqabane ethu. Nangona kunjalo, xa ndisiva ngabantu abenza izoyikiso, babhenele kumagama abo, kwaye bayangxola nanini na xa benomsindo, ndiyakhathazeka. Kuqhelekile ukuphulukana ne-apos; ngamanye amaxesha ukuba uphikisana neqabane lakho malunga nento ethile, kodwa ukuba ezi slingshots zenzeka rhoqo, inokuba luphawu lwempatho gadalala.

Kuba iimpawu zinokuba zobuqili, ukuqonda phakathi kwengxabano eshushu kunye nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi kunokuba nzima. Ndikhe ndabona abantu abaninzi abangazange baqonde ukuba babephethwe gadalala de baqalaunyango. Amaxesha amaninzi, ngokungazi banciphisa okanye bathethelele izenzo zamaqabane abo, ngokuzixelela izinto, ezinje: Uxinzelelo nje kuphela emsebenzini; nje ukuba siye eholideyini, izinto ziya kuba ngcono, okanye Unengxaki yokujamelana nomsindo. Ndiyazi ukuba wayengathethi ngenkohlakalo izinto awayezithetha kum. Xa amagama acaphukisayo ngathi ngekhe ndicaphuke ukuba awunabuthathaka kangako, okanye Wazisa ungquzulwano kuwe. Andixolisi, yiba yinto eqhelekileyo, ayisiyonto inqabileyo, inokuba lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge impilo-ntle yolwalamano lwakho.

Ingavakala imangalisa, kodwa phantse Iipesenti ezingama-50 Abafazi kunye namadoda banamava okuhlangana okungakhuselekanga ngokwasemphefumlweni neqabane. Ngelixa kunzima & ukungahoyi umonakalo obangelwe bubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni — njengamehlo amnyama kunye nokugruzuka — amanxeba engqondo ashiywe ngamanqindi okuthetha awaziwa & apos; awaphantse abonakale. Kodwa loo nto ayithethi ukuba abazizo ii-apos; abonakalisi ukuzithemba kunye nempilo yengqondo njengobundlobongela.

Kwaye ngelixa kusoloko kukho umgca omncinci phakathi kokulwa kunye nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi, kukho ezimbalwa iimpawu zokubonisa ezinokubonisa ukuba unobuhlobo obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo.

Abahlukumezi baziva bengenamandla okubangela ukuba baqonde amandla kunye nolawulo ngokubeka ityala nokuhlazisa abanye. Enye indlela abakwenza ngayo oku kukusebenzisa ukubiza amagama kunye (nokungakhi) ukugxeka nanini na kuvela ukungavisisani. Ukuba iqabane lakho liwisa i-f-bhombu, okanye liqhubeka liphakamisa iziphene zakho ngendlela ehlasela isimilo sakho, inokuba luphawu lokuba bazama ukungakuphathi amandla. Ukuphosa izithuko, ngathi awusoze wazi ukuba uthetha ngantoni, okanye andikho siphosakeleyo, usisidenge kakhulu ukuba ungayiqonda le nto ndithetha ngayo, inokubonisa ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna ukuqokelela onke amandla kubambiswano ngokuzama ukukunciphisa.

Abahlukumezi abahlali bengxola kwaye bethuka nanini na xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. Ngamanye amaxesha babhenela kwiindlela zokuphembelela ukuziva benetyala njengendlela yokwenza uzive ungonwabanga. Umzekelo, omnye umntu usenokuthi, 'ukuba ubundikhathalele ngokwenene, ngekhe uhlehlise umhla wethu wangokuhlwa,' okanye 'bendicinga ukuba sinobudlelwane obukhethekileyo, kodwa kufanele ukuba ndiphazamile kuba ukuba besisondelene ngokwenene, ngekhe wenze ngale ndlela. ' Ezi ntlobo zezityholo zinokubangela ukuba uqikelele izigqibo zakho. Ungaqala nokuthatha uxanduva kwimpixano, kwanaxa ingesosiphoso sakho.

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Andizange ndikubize njakazi ndini; Ndithe uyinjakazi. Ayilotyala lam awunokwazi umahluko. Abahlukumezi ngamazwi bahlala bephika ubunyani bakho ngokungazichazi iimvakalelo zakho. Kwakhona, eyaziwa ngokuba kukukhanya kwegesi, le ndlela yokunyanzelisa inokubangela ukuba uzive ngathi ulahlekelwa yingqondo. Abantu abakhanyisa igesi banokuyigqwetha inyaniso kwaye xa usitsho umahluko, bayayinyanzela loo nto wena ukungaqondwa kakuhle. Ixesha elingaphezulu, le patheni isusa imeko yomntu yokuzithemba. Umxhaphazi usenokude asebenzise eli qhinga ukukhuthaza ukuxhomekeka-oko kukuthi, ukwenza ukuba uthembele kwiziphakamiso zabo kuba uyathandabuza indlela ozibona ngayo izinto.

Umthengi wakha wandixelela: Emva kwemfazwe yethu embi, isithandwa sam sihlala sisenza kum. Uswiti kwaye undithengela iintyatyambo. Undixelela ukuba uya kuba buhlungu kangakanani ukuba ndingaze ndimshiye. Emva kokuhlaselwa ngamazwi, nangona umxhaphazi esenokungathathi uxanduva ngokuziphatha kwakhe, bahlala bekuncoma, bekunika izipho, okanye ukuthandana. Xa uxhatshazo lufihlakele, olu hlobo lokuziphatha lunokubufihla ubungozi bokuhlaselwa ngamazwi. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukho umjikelo kwindlela ophikisana ngayo kwaye uyoyika ukulwa, kungangumqondiso wokuba ubanjiwe kumjikelo wobundlobongela.

Emva kokuchitha ubusuku kunye nabahlobo, amaqabane axhaphazayo angakutyhola ngokungabakhathaleli, okanye unyanzelise ukuba unayo into oyenzela umhlobo okanye umntu osebenza naye. Xa uziphika ezi zityholo, banokufuna ukuba ubonakalise kubo ngokucela ukuba ufunde imibhalo kunye nee-imeyile zakho. Ngaphantsi, abaxhaphazi bahlala beziva ngathi abanamsebenzi, kodwa endaweni yokuveza uloyiko lwabo, babaqikelela kwabanye.

'Andazi ukuba kutheni ucinga ukuba umsebenzi wakho yinto enkulu kangaka; ayithandi ukuba uye kwisikolo se-Ivy League. ' Ukuzama ukukuhlutha amandla akho, abahlukumezi ngamazwi bahlala bekujongela phantsi okufezekisileyo nembonakalo yakho. Kwangelo xesha, bahlala bekhulisa ukubaluleka kwabo kunye nempumelelo. Banokude bakuthuke esidlangalaleni, kwaye ukuba uyathetha malunga neemvakalelo zakho ezibuhlungu, bayakhawuleza ukugxininisa ukuba ubungawaqondi la magqabaza.

Iintlungu zokuphathwa gadalala zinokuphelisa impilo yakho yengqondo. Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba ukwimeko engakhuselekanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, thetha nomhlobo omthembileyo okanye ilungu losapho kwaye ufune iingcebiso kwiingcali.

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