Abantu basixelele Iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuba abasemzini bababethe

Eli nqaku livele kwaseVICE Canada . Ndiqinisekile ukuba sonke sicinge iimeko ezingenakubalwa apho ummi mhle eza kuthi atshintshe ubomi bethu ngonaphakade. Umzuzwana omnye ume kwivenkile yokutya, uzibuza ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto incinci ye-pasta, kwaye into elandelayo uyazi, ingelosi ethile ihamba ngembiza ye-Prego, i-wedge ye-parm, kunye noncumo olunokubhaka itshizi I-spaghetti iminyaka ezayo. Lithuba lokuhlangana elinokwenza isidlo sakho sangokuhlwa, kunye nobomi bakho, buzalise.

Kodwa kuzo zonke ezi ngcinga, uqikelelo lwam kukuba awuzange ucinge ukuba iinkwenkwezi zakho ziqala ukungqubana xa ubona iifoto zabanye kwizikrini zeerobhothi ezincinci, ezigcinwe ngesandla kwaye utyibilize iminwe yakho kubo bonke ubuso bobuso obuphuculweyo ngokwamanani. Kwaye okwangoku, ukucofa okanye ukuswayipha okanye ukucofa kwi-avatar yomntu yile Eyona ndlela ixhaphakileyo yokuba abantu babhangqe kule mihla. Ukuhlafunwa ziintsuku apho iinzame zokwenyani ziya kufuna ukwenziwa i-IRL ukuze uthando luqhakaze. Namhlanje, ukufumana umhla kunokuziva kufana nokuthenga iincwadi kwiAmazon ngekhadi lekhredithi eliphantse lagqitywa. Wongeza izinto kwinqwelo yakho, kwaye siyathemba ukuba intengiselwano yamkelwe.

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Kodwa njengoko unokuthelekelela, abantu bangena, kulungile, zonke iintlobo zezinto xa kuziwa kwimeko yokudibana namaphupha. Ngelixa umntu omnye enokukhetha ukuthamba, ukupasa amanqaku ukuya kwibanga lesibhozo, omnye unokwamkela ukubetha ngokuthe ngqo- umzekelo, ukumkanikazi ofakwe pee kwisuti yengwe ecela amanani abo.

UJess, 29, unomdla kumadoda nabasetyhini

Kwindawo zikawonke-wonke, ndinganomdla kakhulu kumntu ohloniphayo ukuzibandakanya ngokuvumelana. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndinamava, namadoda ngokukodwa, apho umntu eza kuvela nje aze ahlasele indawo yam ngaphandle kokucela ukwenza njalo. Yithi ndifunda incwadi okanye ndiphume nabahlobo, loo mntu uya kutsala nje isihlalo kufutshane kwaye aqale ukuthetha nam ngaphandle kokubuza. Oko, kum, kukuzibandakanya okungavisisaniyo, kwaye nokuba bathini ngelo xesha, sele izakuba yinto.

Ukuba umntu othile ufuna ukusondela kum, ukudlulisa inqaku kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokwenza oko. Kuba nokuba umntu uza aze abuze, hey, ngaba ucinga ukuba ndikubuza into? iseluhlobo lokuphazamisa. Ukutyibilika inqaku elithi-bendingafuni ukukuphazamisa kuba ndifuna ukukuvumela uqhubeke usenza le uyenzayo, kodwa bendifuna ukukubuza. Ndithumele umyalezo kule nombolo.-ingayintle ngokwenene! Ayikunyanzelisi. Ndingakhetha ukuphendula ndibuye ndivume kuthethathethwano oluqhubekekayo, okanye, eyona meko imbi kakhulu, bandityibilikise inowuthi, bemka, ndiyilahla inqaku kwaye ndiqhubeke nosuku lwam ngaphandle kokujongana nemeko engathandekiyo.

Uyintoni umahluko phakathi kwabafana ababetha kum namantombazana? Andiqondi ukuba ndandikhe ndafikelwa ngumfazi. Amakhwele eVancouver ayabanda kakhulu ngenxa yoko. Ndidlula ngokuthe tye, kwaye ndingumfazi ngakumbi ukubonisa, ngoko ke ndicingelwa ukuba lixesha elininzi lokuba ndithe tye. Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ndiza kuncipha kwaye ndithambekele ekuzibandakanyeni nomntu wasetyhini kunakwindoda ngokwenyulo. Ndisaya kufuna uthethathethwano oluhloniphekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ukuba kubekho umntu oza kucela inombolo yam okanye andibuze umbuzo, ndingathanda kakhulu ukwamkela kunokuba ndenze into ethile engaqhelekanga.

UCasey, 31, unomdla kumadoda nabasetyhini

Andikhathali ukusondela-nokuba andinamdla. Into endiyicinga ngayo xa imikhwa ingathathwanga. Akunzima kakhulu, ngenqanaba elithile lobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ukuxelela ukuba ingaba lo mntu ndingamaziyo angathanda ukuncokola okanye angathanda ukushiywa yedwa.

Xa abantu bendibetha, bahlala bengandifundisi njengentombazana ehambayo-kwaye ukuba bayayenza, abazami ukundichola kwasekuqaleni ngoba oko… luhlobo lwezinto eziqhele ukuhamba. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ebekhona amaxesha apho abantu beza kuphuma kwindlela yabo yokwenza izimvo malunga nokuba ndiyatshintsha, okanye bandibuze imibuzo malunga nokuhamba ngendlela ebonisa ukuba oh, ungakhathazeki, mna ' m cool, kodwa ndingathanda ukuba loo nto ingenzeki.

Kubekho amaxesha ambalwa apho abantu bebethethile, kwimizuzwana embalwa yokuqala yokuthetha nam, ngaba ulungiselela kwangaphambili okanye ulungiselele, kwaye ndiyafana, uxolo, singathetha eyakho amalungu esini? Ndinebali elimnandi kakhulu malunga nomabhalane onesi-7 elinanye ngo-4: 30 kusasa owayezama ukundilanda kwaye asilele nyani kwaye ndandifana, ndiza kuhamba ngoku, kwaye wayefana, nawe ke yazi, ndiyifumene kakuhle i-anal, kwaye ndicinga, T umnqwazi ikhadi lakho lexilongo ? Yile nto uyikhuphelayo ukuze ugcine yonke intengiselwano? Yintoni le fuck, mfo ? Uye wabuza umbuzo wangaphambili okanye wepost-op, ke, uyazi.

Kodwa ndicinga ukuba kukho ukubakho kokuqhagamshelwa okungahleliwe okanye ukuthathwa kwezinto ezilungileyo ukuba zibe ziintengiselwano ezilungileyo. NgoLwesihlanu ophelileyo, bendise-bar kwaye lo mfo wafika wahlala kwikona ejongene nam. Wathi molo, ndathi molo, kodwa akazange andicinezele okanye andicaphukise — ndandifunda okanye into ethile. Kodwa emva koko saqala ukuncokola ngakumbi-uhlobo lwezinto ezingenabungozi, ezingenangqondo. Uye wandithembisa ngokundithengela isiselo, ndavuma, sancokola ngakumbi. Emva kwethutyana bendifana, uyafuna ukuphuma apha? kwaye wathi, ewe, kwaye iyonke kwakukunxibelelana okuhle. Ndiziva ndilungile ngokupheleleyo ngayo yonke le nto.

UDavid / uthuli *, i-28, inomdla emadodeni

* Uthuli nguDrag's Drag persona

Okokuqala, ndiyathanda ukucinga ukuba kubonakala ngathi zimbini iintlobo zabantu emhlabeni: i-hit-on-er kunye ne-hit-on-ee. Ndingaphezulu kokubetha. Ke ukuba I & apos; ndiziva ndizithembile kwaye ndiyamthanda umntu, ndiza kunyuka ndiye kubo ndiyokufumana inombolo yabo. Yindlela nje endenza ngayo-ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle kokutsala. Ukuze ndibethwe? Ndiyayithanda ngqo. Andiyithandi imigca yokuchola-ndicinga ukuba yinto ehlekisayo kunye ne-trope ngeli nqanaba, kodwa ndicinga ukuba kukho into ekhethekileyo ngomntu oza kuwe akuxelele ukuba uyakuthanda. Ndicinga ukuba ukuchola abantu bubugcisa obufa. Kunqabile ukuba sikwenze kwakhona. Akukho, ngathi, oh, ndavela ndangena kule ndawo ndisela emva komsebenzi ndadibana naye. Abantu bafumana ubuchule ngakumbi ngayo ngoku, ngokungathi, baya kubona umntu kwindawo yebar kwaye bahambe, mmm, ndiyabona ukuba bahamba nabani, ndiyamazi loo mntu, kwaye ke ndizakubafumana nje ngesiphatho sabo se-Instagram.

Ndinebali elimnandi kakhulu malunga nemeko yokuthatha xa bendirhuqa. NgoNovemba ophelileyo, bendikhuphisana noMnu / Mnu. I-Cobalt Zonke iiNkanyezi, kwaye bendisenza inombolo ephambeneyo, kwaye bendisazi ukuba lo mfo bendinaye endimthandayo ndiza kuba lapho Icebo lam ibikukumcela ahambe namhla. Bendifana, nantsi, obu iya kuba bobona busuku bunamandla; Ndiza kumbuza phambi kokusebenza. Kodwa khange yenzeke kuba bendinovalo kakhulu phambi komboniso. Ngapha koko, ndaphakama ndaya eqongeni ndenza intsebenzo. Ndandinxibe le lokhwe inkulu imthubi, kwaye ndalungelelanisa imilebe ku Annie Lennox's Kutheni, kwaye ndaye umhlobo wam waphuma eqongeni wandichamela-ngathi ndichama ebusweni bam nakum. Ndandinxibe iipads, kodwa ndandichame ebusweni bam nakuyo yonke indawo, kwaye kwakungekho ishawa kuloo ndawo.

Ndigqibile ukusebenza kwam ndathatha ilokhwe yam, kodwa iiphedi zam [endandizinxibe ngaphantsi kwelokhwe] zazimanzi nte! Ke, xa ndinxiba le ngwe yomzimba wengwe- njengeqatha ukuya entanyeni- yafumana ukufuma ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa bendiziva ndinamandla kuba abantu ngokucacileyo bayonwabele intsebenzo. Abantu bayaphambana ukuba bayaphambanisa nezinto. Ndaye ndaphuma ndaya ngaphandle, ndahamba ndaya kulomfo endandinaye, ndigqunywe ngokupheleleyo yipee yomnye umntu, ndamcela ukuba ahambe namhla. Kwaye wathi, ewe, kunjalo.

UJocelyn, 26, unomdla emadodeni

Imeko yam efanelekileyo inokuba kwindawo engenabutywala kunye nendlela ekulula ukuyamkela okanye ukuyiphika. Hypothetically, ivenkile yeencwadi. Ukuba umntu uza kum kwaye wayefana, zeziphi iincwadi ozithengayo? kwaye ndandifana, Intsimbi yeBell , kodwa akazange athethe enye into, emva koko oko kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba andinamdla. Kodwa ukuba ndithe, umzekelo, ndiyathenga Intsimbi yeBell , emva koko ucacisiwe ngokubuza ukuba uthenga ntoni? kunye nokuqala incoko, oko kuya kuthetha ukuba ndinokuba nomdla. Ndicinga ukuba imeko yam efanelekileyo yokuthabatha ingabakho nomntu owuqondayo umahluko phakathi kokuphendula ngembeko nokuphendula ngenxa yomdla wokwenene.

Kukho iimeko apho ndingathandi ukuncokolwa. Njengasesitobhini sebhasi, nakweyiphi na indlela yokuhamba, kwivenkile yekofu apho ndisebenza ngokucacileyo okanye ndibandakanyeka kwizinto zam, nangaliphi na ixesha ndinxiba ii-headphone.

Okanye xa ndiphumile nabahlobo bam kwaye sonwabile nabo. Ndihlala ndikufumanisa kunzima emabalaleni kuba kuvakala ngathi abantu balinde ukukuhlukanisa nxamnye nokuva. Kodwa awona maxesha mabi ahlala esesidlangalaleni. Nditsho kuba uziva ubanjisiwe. Ubambekile ebhasini naloo mntu, nokuba uyafuna okanye awuyifuni.

ULevi, oneminyaka engama-28, unomdla kubafazi

Ndinecebo kumyezo wasekuhlaleni, kwaye ngolunye usuku ndandicinga ukuba ukuba intombazana ihamba yaza yancoma i-green-thumbery, loo nto iya kuba yinto enhle. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndingathanda imeko apho ndindedwa. Ukuba nabahlobo ngeenxa zonke kuya kuluchitha ixesha. Kodwa ndiyasithanda isitiya kuba yindawo entle kwaye engaxhomisi sixhobo. Yindawo apho unokuba nengxoxo emnandi, engagungqiyo nomntu.

Ndikhe ndaba nemeko entle engaqhelekanga ebandakanya inenekazi elindibetha. Ndime ebharini weza kum-endibamba, ethetha nam, edlala ngothando okanye nantoni na. Bendithetha ndiphendula, ndinobuhlobo nje ndiyaqikelela, kwaye wayenxila. Emva koko wanditsalela kuye waqala ukusebezela indlebe yam. Kwangoko wandinika umsebenzi wokuvuthela kwaye wathetha into ethile ngokundivuthela epakini engaphaya kwesitalato. Ndaqala ukuhleka ndisoyika, kwaye wavele wancuma waqalisa ukuhlebela izinto ezingakumbi, ngathi, uchaza nje ngokucacileyo into eza kwenzeka emva kokuba ndigqibile emlonyeni wakhe-ngathi ngendlela engaqhelekanga yebhayoloji. Wayechaza imephu yendlela ye-jizz yam ukusuka emlonyeni wakhe ukuya esiswini sakhe. Ndithathiwe kancinci, ndothuswe kancinci kodwa ndavuka ngendlela engaqhelekanga. Ndimxelele ukuba ndinentombi, ndemka ndadibana nabahlobo bam.

UMat, 22, unomdla kubafazi

Imeko efanelekileyo ibiya kuba ukuba umncedisi obuhlala ubuya naphambili kunye nabo bonke ubusuku ukumema ukuba ubuyele endaweni yabo, okanye ushiye inani labo ukuze uthethe nabo kamva. Ubhala nje inombolo yakhe kwaye athi nditsalele umnxeba, enobuso obunoncumo. Iiseva zihlala ziyiyona ndlela ishushu yokuhamba. Banesikhundla samandla, ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba, eliqinisekileyo elinomtsalane. Into endiyithethayo kukuba, nangona kufuneka bathethe nawe, nokuba batyale kuwe okanye sisigqibo sabo, uyazi? Banamandla okwenza isigqibo nokuba bazokubhabha phezulu kwaye bathethe nawe. Kwaye kule meko, kungcono ukuba ukwiqela labahlobo. Indoda eyindoda ifuna oko.

UMichael, 23, unomdla kubo bonke ubulili

Ndingu-bigender kwaye ndihlala ndibonakala ndingumfazi. Ukuncoma iimpahla zam okanye intetho yam yamkelekile. Ndihlala ndingamkeli wow unesibindi sokuncoma kuba iyandibetha njengabantu abazama ukuzibonakalisa ukuba bayabandakanya. Ewe kunjalo, konke kuxhomekeke kwithoni yelizwi, iinjongo eziqondwayo, njl njl.

Ndingathi ndikhululekile ukuhanjwa kwiindawo ezininzi. Ndiyacaphuka xa abantu beqala ukukholelwa ukuba ndibatyala nantoni na ngenxa yokubethelwa. Ukuba umntu undibiza ngokuba mhle, kuhle! Kodwa ukuba baqala ukuzama ukudanisa konke kum ngenxa yokuba besithi ndimhle kwaye ndathi enkosi, ke ndinengxaki. Ukwamkela ukuncoma akuyiyo imvume yokungena kwindawo yam.

UJess, oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, unomdla kubo bonke ubulili

Andikhathali ngesenzo esiqhelekileyo sokusondela kubo, ukuba nje iyi-100 yepesenti ehloniphayo. Into endingayithandiyo kukuba nomsindo, ukubiza igama, ukungazihloniphi xa ndibonisa ukungabi namdla. Iyandoyikisa loo nto, kwaye andazi ukuba yeyiphi indoda eza kuyikhupha kwaye indibethe ngenxa yokulahla isiselo sayo. Kude kube ubundlobongela obujoliswe kwabasetyhini ngenxa yamadoda & nelungelo lokufumana amalungelo emizimba yethu kwaye ixesha lithatha ukwehla okukhulu; ukusondela kumntu ongamaziyo kuya kuhlala kundibeka esichengeni. Ukuba ndiyayeka ukugada, ndingabekwa ityala lokudlwengula okanye ukubulala.

Imbeko iya kuba ngu-1. Ungaphazamisi ukuba & Iapos sele ndinencoko nomntu. Nokuba unokuthi kwi-100 yepesenti uxelele I & apos; kunye nomntu osisihlobo esingqongqo, ukuphazamisa umntu okrwada kwaye kubonisa ukuba awuhloniphi amazwi kunye neengcinga zam xa ndiziva ndifuna ukwabelana ngazo.

2. Andenzi naluphi na uhlobo lokuphawula ngomzimba wam. Ukuncoma umhlaba ubangcono xa unikwa malunga nokhetho olwenziwe ngumntu, kunokuba xa lithetha ngento engenako ukutshintsha ngokulula.

3. Gcina umfowunelwa wokuqala ofutshane. Ndingaba lapha nomntu, okanye ndidibane nabo kungekudala. Ndingabalapha ukuze ndibambe amaqanda ngokukhawuleza okukhulu ukuze ndibaleke ndibuye ndigqibe ukupheka okuthile. Ukusondela ukubulisa emva koko ubuya umva kubonisa umntu elihloniphayo ixesha lam kunye nokuzimela kwam. Ukulibala ngeenxa zonke kunokuba yinto eyoyikisayo kwaye yoyikise, nokuba indibano ihamba kakuhle. Inyani yento yile: Andazi ukuba mna nawe asizanga ukuza apha kuwe. Kumnandi ukudibana nawe, ngoku lixesha lokuba undenze.

4. Ngokuqinisekileyo akunakuphikiswa.

5. Ukuba ndithi hayi okanye andinomdla, umntu lowo makangatsho ukuba akukho ngxaki, nilale kakuhle 'ngoko nangoko ndishiye ndedwa. Hayi okwemizuzu elishumi. Hayi ubusuku bonke. Ngonaphakade. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ndikuxelele hayi ngokuphindaphindiweyo.

6. Sukuphikisana nam kwaye uzame ukutshintsha ingqondo yam ngayo nantoni na oyinikayo. Kwakhona, I & apos; ndithe hayi. Ukungahoyi loo mpendulo kubonisa ukuba ilizwi lam alizukuthathelwa ngqalelo nguwe.

7. Kwangolo hlobo lunye, ukuba kubonakala ngathi ndikwisocingo malunga nesithembiso sakho, musa ukusityhala isifundo. Buyela umva kwaye mhlawumbi kuya kubakho elinye ithuba.

UAndrew, oneminyaka engama-26 ubudala, unomdla kubafazi

Ndingumntu oqhelekileyo okhululekileyo-ubambe into engama-20. Ewe, ndinokucinga imeko efanelekileyo apho ndidibana khona nomntu othile phezu kwebhiya yobugcisa kwindawo yemiboniso bhanyabhanya yendawo apho siqonda ukuba siza kubona imuvi yakudala esithandanayo. Okanye mhlawumbi sibamba ngamehlo epakini ngelixa omnye wethu efunda incwadi evusa impendulo enkulu evela komnye. Ingqaqambo. Vomit kuyo yonke indawo. Yeyiphi incindi. Kodwa kuko konke ukunyaniseka, kubaluleke ngakumbi oko kuthethiweyo. Kwaye konke okubalulekileyo kukuba nabani na oza kuzama ukundibetha okanye andazi uyaqonda ukuba ndinobuqhophololo kwaye ndisoyika ngokuhamba ngequbuliso kunye nentetho enoburharha. Thetha ngokungaginyisi mathe emva kokuba sidibene nje, kwaye ndiza kugxadazela ukuhleka, ukuphepha ukudibana kwamehlo kunye nombuzo wakho. Sebenzisa umgca wokuthabatha kwaye ndiza kuyithengisa ngenye indlela, i-sweaty mess. Ndifuna ukunyanzelwa. Masithathe ixesha lethu sincokole nje kuba ngokuqinisekileyo ndizakuba ngowokugqibela ukuqonda nantoni na eyenzekayo kwasekuqaleni. Bhalisela iincwadana zethuukufumana okona kulungileyo kwe-MediaMente kusiwa kwibhokisi yakho engenayo yonke imihla

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