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Umzekeliso ngu-Alex Jenkins Andinawo amandla okuba ndiqinisekile ukuba ndidibene nomntu obaluleke kakhulu kubomi bam njengomntu omdala, kodwa andizange ndicinge ukuba andizukucwangcisa ikamva lam nomntu osoloko esoyika ukundichukumisa. I & apos; veated sociopaths, amakhoboka eziyobisi, kunye neziyobisi, kodwa andizange ndicinge ukuba bunganjani ubomi nomntu olwa ne-OCD.
Xa ndadibana noTony (ayilogama lakhe lokwenyani) ngaphezulu konyaka ophelileyo, wakhawuleza waveza ukuba unengxaki ubume obungalunganga obuphambanisayo , ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo okuphawulwa kukungena ngaphakathi, ukungalawuleki kweengcinga kunye nokwenza amasiko aphindaphindiweyo. Inyaniso yokuba waziva isidingo sokuchaza olu lwazi bubungqina bokuba i-OCD ilawula kangakanani ubomi bakhe. Esi sifo sinokulawuleka, kodwa sinokudla konke — esinye isayikholojisti sandixelela ngezigulana ze-OCD ezibhedlele ezoyika kakhulu ukusela amanzi akholelwa ukuba angcolisekile.
IZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo linika ingxelo yokuba 2.2 yezigidi zabantu baphila nale meko, kodwa amadoda acingelwa ukuba ahlupheke kakhulu kunabafazi, kwaye uninzi lwabantu lufunyaniswa luneminyaka eli-19. UTony wafunyaniswa ukuba ungaphezulu kweminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, kwaye sele elaliswe esibhedlele kabini. Uthi uvele 'waphambana,' engakwazi ukuphuma kwigumbi lakhe ngenxa yokoyikiswa. Namhlanje, i-OCD yakhe izibonakalisa kwiingcinga ezingafunekiyo malunga nococeko; izandla zakhe zihlala zinamaqhakuva, zichachambile, kwaye wopha ngenxa yokuzihlamba izihlandlo. Akayi kuphatha nantoni na ayibona 'ingcolile'- izibambo zomnyango zikawonke-wonke, iitawuli ezisetyenzisiweyo, nkqu nam.
Funda umsebenzi wethu kwi-OCD, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, nokunye okuninzi kwi-MediaMente Isikhokelo seMpilo yeNgqondo .
Kodwa sathandana kwasekuqaleni. UTony wayengumphulaphuli olungileyo, efunda kakuhle, enovelwano kwaye enoburharha. Sidibene ngoMvulo, ndathi xa ndihamba ndisiya kuhambo lwangoLwesihlanu, sasisele singahlukani. Nangona sasingazani, ndakhawuleza ndaqonda ukuba uTony wayengumntu onobuzaza nothando. Kwakungayi kubakho kude kube kamva ukuba ndibuqonde ngokupheleleyo ubungakanani bokugula kwakhe.
Usuku kunye noTony lukhangeleka ngoluhlobo: Ndivuka ecaleni kwakhe kwaye kufuneka ndiyeke ukumchukumisa. Akayi kubamba ubuso bakhe okanye iinwele de abe ne-apos, ngenxa 'yeoli efihliweyo' ezandleni zakhe (andinako ukumthintela, ngenxa yesi sizathu). Ngelinye ixesha, wayengafuni nokundanga ngaphambi kokuya emsebenzini ukuba ndandingazange ndiphinde ndihlambe. Usale ukwala ukunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni ukuba ndiyangqubana nento ayithatha 'njengengahlambulukanga,' njengodonga lukawonkewonke, okanye ukuba ibhatyi yam iwile phantsi.
Ndihlamba impahla yonke imihla ukuze uTony azomise ngetawuli entsha emva kokuba ehlambile. UTony ufuna entsha mihla le, kwaye ukhetha ukuba mhlophe, ukuze abone nawaphi na amabala angabonakaliyo kwibala. Ukuba uyazomisa ngetawuli enamabala, uya kuphinda ahlambe kwaye ayome entsha.
Ngenye imini, ndomisa isiciko somatrasi wethu kumjikelo oshushu kakhulu kwaye xa inyibilika, uTony wala ukulala ebhedini de sathatha indawo yesembozo esitshatyalalisiweyo. Nangona kunjalo, wayeziva 'engahlambulukanga' ebhedini. Elinye ixesha, xa ndisebenzisa imveliso engeyiyo esofeni yethu, wakuphepha ukuhlala kuyo iiveki ezintathu.
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Kwaye akukho mfihlo yokuba ubudlelwane buyawenza umsebenzi, kodwa uxinzelelo lokuchuma lukhuliswa ngaphaya kwenkolelo xa ezona zenzo zincinci zinokubangela ukonakala. Naxa uTony engakwaziyo ukunxibelelana ngqo nemida yakhe, bathi cwaka baxelele yonke into esiyenzayo. Mna & apos sikugqala ukugula kwakhe njengento eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo-UTony ufuna ukuba nothando ngaphandle kwezinyanzelo, kodwa i-OCD ifuna ukulawula ubomi bethu. Emva kokuphosa umsindo okanye silwe, ndinokuxelela ukuba ufuna ukwenza isibini 'esiqhelekileyo' -ngothando lomzimba, ukwangana okufudumeleyo okuthi 'Ndiyaxolisa''kodwa i-OCD ayiphumelelanga mvumele.
Kukho amaxesha amaninzi kangangokuba I & apos; ndilile ndinqwenela ukuba uTony abe nje 'uqhelekile.' I & apos; ndiye ndoyike imisebenzi eyonwabisayo kunye nezihlandlo ezikhethekileyo kuba ngovuyo olungakumbi luza kwinqanaba eliphezulu loxinzelelo. UTony ukhuphe iivenkile zokutyela nemivalo emva kokuba umntu emchithe ngengozi iziselo kuye; xa sisenza amatheko, ndazi ngcono kunokuba nditshabhise ukwanga kwaye ndiphume kwindawo kawonke-wonke. Ngesinye isihlandlo, uTony wade akavuma nokutya kwivenkile yokutyela ephezulu kuba isambrela sakhe sawela phantsi. Engqondweni yakhe, iingozi azenzeki kuba yonke into ayenzayo icwangcisiwe-akanakuze alumke ngokwaneleyo kwaye nam kulindeleke ukuba ndilandele.
Kwibhodi yomama: Ukunyanga i-OCD ngemitha yeGamma Kunzima ngokwenene
Akukho 'nyango' lwe-OCD, kodwa njengezinye izifo zengqondo, inokulawulwa ngonyango olululo kunye nenkxaso. UTony okwangoku kunyango, kwaye uthatha i-40 ukuya kwi-60 yeeproksetine (ichiza eliqhelekileyo kulawulo lwe-OCD) yonke imihla. Ezi zinto ziyamnceda, kodwa akasebenzi kwaye unqwenela ukuba abe nako. Ngaphandle konyango, imeko inqabile ukuba izisombulule.
Emva konyaka sikunye, kwaye kulula ukuba silindele ukuba yintoni eza kukhathaza uTony, kwaye njengeqabane lakhe, ndizama ukuba yintsika yenkxaso. Kodwa ukuxhasa iqabane kunye ne-OCD yinto yemihla ngemihla, yemihla ngemihla. Ndihlala ndisecaleni, ndixakeke yinto elandelayo eza kumlahla, kwaye kuyandikhathaza ukuba sisokola ukonwaba kwezona zinto zilula ebomini. Amandla okuzenzekelayo akanakubakho. Ngaphandle kokuzimela, ungathandana njani?
Kwaye okwangoku, ngulo mntu ndimthandayo. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, ukubukela uTony kundenze umntu onovelwano ngakumbi, kodwa nayo yandizalisa ngosizi olunzulu njengoko ndikhule ndisiba krakra kwinxalenye yakhe yokuba usokola. Kodwa kumaxesha am okuzolileyo, kufuneka ndizikhumbuze ukuba uTony & apos uphila nokugula okugogekileyo, kwaye ukuba angazitshintsha izinto, ebezakwenza njalo.
Ngaphambi kokuba ndidibane noTony, ndandidla ngokuhleka xa ndisiva abahlobo bam bethetha, 'Hayi, andikho njalo OCD.' Ngoku andiyifumani ihlekisa kakhulu.