I-Echoism yimeko engaziwa kancinci echaphazela amaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala kweNarcissistic

Abantu abanengxaki yokungaziphathi kakuhle (i-NPD) bayaxhaphaza, banelungelo, kwaye abanalo uvelwano, ucacisa uMalkin. Banomlutha kakhulu wokuziva bekhethekile kangangokuba baya kuxoka, bebe, bakhohlise-nantoni na eyenziwayo ukuze bahlangabezane neemfuno zabo, ngaphandle kwendleko kwabanye. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abanolwazelelelo ngokweemvakalelo, nabanovelwano banokuba zii-echoists ukuba bayaxhatshazwa ngabantu abenza izinto zobuntwana ebuntwaneni. UMalkin ubeka ubungqongqo esiphelweni sesiphelo se-narcissistic ayenzileyo: ii-echoists zine uloyiko Yokuswela, ekhethekileyo, okanye yokuzingca.

Njengepesenti enye kuphela yabemi enesifo sokuchongwa kwe-NPD, ayizizo zonke ii-echoists eziya kuba kubudlelwane nabantu abane-NPD efunyenweyo, kodwa endaweni yoko kutyekelo olubanzi lwe-narcissistic. UMalkin uqikelela malunga neepesenti ezili-16 zabemi ezibonisa indlela yokuziphatha ye-narcissist, kwaye uninzi lwezi narcissists luya kuba namalungu osapho anokuthi abhenceke ekuphathweni gadalala, oko kuthetha ukuba umbono we-echoism uphawuleka kubaphulaphuli abaninzi.

Ukuphathwa gadalala kwe-narcissistic kubandakanya amaqhinga okuphatha ngokwengqondo njengokuhlazisa, ukuzikhetha, ukukhanyisa igesi kunye nokugada ngamatye Elinye lamava elonakalisa kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakho kukuba awuziva ungumntu, utsho uMalkin. Uba ngumlingisi walo mntu.

Bendihlala ndisiya kwindlu yangasese kakhulu ukuze ndizijonge esipilini, utsho uSarah, ngoku oneminyaka eyi-39 kwaye uhlala nonyana wakhe okwishumi elivisayo eSurrey. Oku kuvakala kuyinqaba kakhulu, yayingeyonto ingamampunge- [yayi] ngaphezulu ngathi [ndi] jonga ukuba bendisekho. Indlela endandizibona ngayo ibibuthathaka. Ndikuthiyile nakuphi na ukugxila kum. Ndandifuna ukungabonakali.

Abantu abanabazali abathandanayo bahlala bengazi ngokungafaniyo ukuba ngamaqabane xa sele bebadala. Xa kufuneka ucofe ngokupheleleyo isiqu sakho, unokuziva uphila ngohlobo olufanayo lonyango, utshilo uSarah. Kwiminyaka yam engama-20 ndazibeka kwiimeko ezoyikisayo, ndabethwa, ndaxhatshazwa ngokwesini kwaye ndathobela isidima, kodwa andinakushiya njengoko ekuphela kwendlela endandiphila ngayo yayikukuba 'sisongezo' kumnxibelelanisi. Obo budlelwane be-rollercoaster narcissistic kunye nobuhlobo busebenzisa lonke ixesha lam namandla.

Kwincwadi yakhe ye-2018 Ukunyaniseka, Ugqirha wengqondo u-Donna Christina Savery ubuza ukuba ngaba abantu basetyhini batyekele kakhulu ekuziphatheni okunesidima xa bekhuliswe yi-narcissist. Ubhala ukuba ababhinqileyo banamathuba amaninzi okuba ngokungazi bajonge amaqabane e-narcissistic, kwaye badlale indima ye-echo kolunye ubudlelwane. Abafazi be-Echoist banokuthi babekelwe bucala emsebenzini okanye kumaqela obuhlobo, okukhokelela ekuphumeleleni nasekuxhalabiseni intlalontle, ucebisa uSavery. Nangona kunjalo, uqukumbela ngelithi kufuneka uphando oluthe kratya ukuze kwenziwe isigqibo.

Idatha malunga nokuba ngabafazi banokubakho amathuba okuba bahlupheke ngenxa ye-echoism iyancipha. UMcCloskey uthi abantu basetyhini abaninzi kunamadoda afuna uncedo kuluntu, kodwa ubukhulu becala ubeka loo nto emadodeni ekubeni madolw 'anzima ukufikelela kunyango. (Akanayo nayiphi na idatha malunga nokuxhaphaka phakathi kwe-LGBTQ + okanye abantu abangabambiswanga.) UMalkin wavelisa isikali awayesisebenzisa ukuvavanya abantu abangama-2 000 kutyekelo lwe-echoist. Iziphumo zamothusa. Ndacinga ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini kunamadoda luya kufumana amanqaku aphezulu, kodwa oko akuzange kwenzeke. Into esiyifumeneyo kukuba kwakungekho mahluko phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini kumanqanaba e-echoism.